We went to the zoo. Katie tried to talk to the animals and got mad at them when they didn’t say hi back. Otherwise she had the best time ever. I gave Hailey the camera and let her take all the pictures.
Family Portraits
Hailey has drawn each member of the family. I like mine because I have more hair.
Eight
2001-2009
♣♣♣♣♣♣♣♣
I’m still glad I married you.
B’s Body Parts
Gallbladder removed. Day surgery apparently.
Pictures of organs removed from refrigerator. Not appeasing.
Playa Del Carmen
Spring Break 2007. Brianna made me get on a plane and take her on a real vacation. It was a blast. I miss the pool, the food, and the weather.
View the set.
That’s Not a Couple
[Handing out fruit snacks]
B: You can only have a couple?
[Whining]
H: That’s not a couple. I have one, two, three, four five.
B: How many do you want?
H: Six!
B: Ok, here.
[Happy]
H: One, two, three, four, five, six.
Haileyisms
H: [whining] I want my candy.
B: [antagonizing] I want my oatmeal.
H: [sincerly] Dad will you make mom some oatmeal when we get home?
H: [looking at our neighbor] Is that God sweeping?
D: [confused] No, that is Rob.
H: I have an R in my name.
D: No you don’t, and I don’t know where you would put it if you did.
H: On the brown table in the living room.
H: [after I spilt my tea all over the coffee table and floor] Ha. Ha. Daddy. Ha! Ha!
No Tubes, No Wires, No Hospitals
Katie is finally at home. She sleeps a lot. We have her downstairs with us, but you would never know it. Every three hours she wakes up and we feed her. Then she goes back to sleep.
Hailey got to see Katie for the first time today. She was very excited. Brianna went to get Hailey at school. It was nap time and her teacher was having a hard time getting Hailey to wake up. Hailey does not like to wake up. Brianna whispered, “guess who’s home?” Hailey jumped up ready to go. She wouldn’t take off her shoes for nap time. She wanted to be ready to go. Hailey has been doing soft touches on her baby every since. She alternates between calling her baby and sister.
Hailey is our hand-washing police. We put her in charge of making sure every visitor that comes to see Katie washes their hands. She is doing a terrific job.
Katie’s doctor told us that she was happy for us and very few parents act as excited about taking their child home as Brianna did. Yesterday, when the doctor told Brianna, on the phone, that we could possible take Katie home today. Brianna was quiet. The doctor said, hello, are you there? Brianna stopped crying and said, I love you; this is the best Mother’s Day present ever.
Wooohoo
Brianna just got a phone call from Katie’s doctor. If Katie takes all of her bottles tonight we can take her home tomorrow.
Day 6 in NICU
Today was a great day for little Katie. Her feedings are up to 40 ml and her IV bag has been removed. The IV needle is still in her head but it is only draining and should be removed soon.
Katie has started gaining weight and has been moved into an open crib in a different bay. This is the bay Hailey was discharged from. Hopefully, we will have the whole family home soon.
Babies Need Mommies
Hailey asked where her sister was. I told her she was at the hospital. Hailey asked who was with her. I told her the nurses at NICU were taking good care of her. Hailey told me that wouldn’t do. Babies need their mommies.
You Can Hold Me Now?
Hailey asked Mom if the baby was out of her tummy now. Brianna said yes. Hailey said, then you can hold me now?
Birth
We put Hailey to bed and settled to sleep around ten. I was dead tired and fell fast asleep. At midnight, Brianna woke me. I jumped from bed and into my pants before I knew what was going on. She thought her water had broke. I finished getting dressed and put on my shoes.
Brianna called her mom and explained that her water had broke. She then called after-hours so they could tell her to go to the hospital.
To this point things had been going almost smoothly for us. Brianna had been having contractions for the past two weeks, but the baby has been fine. We have sonograms, stress tests, and OB checks to prove it. I have joked about wanting a May 1st baby (May 1st is a holiday, Christmas is a holiday, it is also past 34 weeks, a milestone we have been trying very hard to meet.), but I don’t expect one. Just this afternoon at noon Brianna had a special Sunday OB check and everything looked normal. Dr. Brinkman said nothing would happen and we were safe for at least 12 hours.
The nurse at after-hours told Brianna to come on in. We activated our well thought out plan and called Rachael to come stay with Hailey while we ran up to the hospital. I had joked with Rachael that she wouldn’t hear her phone when I called. I even joked that I would be calling on Sunday night so to be ready. Rachael kept her phone by her bed, she uses it as an alarm clock. She would certainly hear our summons.
One round of rings was dispatched to Rachael’s voice mail. A second and a third round found a similar fate. Time for the nonexistent backup-plan.
Brianna called Eric. She told him to come to the house to watch Hailey. She never asked what he was doing or if he could. She only said that he should come over now. Eric is a night owl, there was never a chance that he would be sleeping. Fifteen minutes later Eric came speeding onto our street. Tires screeching, he pulled around and into the front of our house.
We left Eric in his untied shoes to stay with Hailey. Hailey was asleep upstairs. She didn’t know we were gone. We only hopped she would stay asleep until morning.
My mom called Sunday afternoon to check on Brianna’s status. Brianna had just received her Sunday special checkup and felt fine. We told my mom nothing was going to happen today. It was safe to catch up on sleep, it was safe to take a sleeping pill to help. This is the second time we have mislead her and told her it was safe to take a sleeping pill when it wasn’t.
On the way to the hospital we called my mom and asked her to come bye and pick up Hailey. This was part of the original plan. Mom doesn’t like hospitals so she would keep Hailey until we were done. Sadly, she was not able to drive over right away and set about trying to wake up enough to drive through the winding country roads to our house.
We got to the hospital 28 minutes after we left the house. Traffic, police, and other obstacles were nonexistent. I parked the car in the garage and we entered through the Emergency Room. Brianna didn’t want a wheelchair, she wanted to walk to Labor and Delivery on the second floor. The lady at the Emergency Room admission desk saw us and said, Do you know where your going? Second floor right, we said? Right she said.
The trip from the Emergency Room to Labor and Delivery was straight forward three years ago, but the path is under major reconstruction now, we detoured through aisles, break rooms, and make-shift passages before finally coming to the dead-end hallway that housed admissions. This admission seemed much easier to me than the last one three years ago. We only needed Brianna’s ID and insurance card before being sent to room 253.
Dr. Brinkman arrived shortly after one. She examined Brianna and told us some unexpected news. Brianna had indeed broken her water, but that doesn’t mean that she has to delivery the baby. Brianna would be hooked up to the monitors but no one would be surprised if she stayed for 48 hours of observations and then went home.
Dr. Brinkman went back home, Brianna laid in the bed with the monitors attached. We all waited. I stayed up and read a book on my laptop. Brianna was having irregular contractions. Around three or four they became more painful. Brianna got some medication to help limit the pain. The medication eased the pain but would not last long.
Dr. Brinkman returned for a checkup around eight. Brianna had been having irregular contractions throughout the night. The monitor wasn’t doing a good job of picking up on their intensity. Dr. Brinkman gave Brianna some more unexpected news. All those contractions had dilated her to a four. We going to have a baby after all.
We had been hoping to get this pregnancy to 34 weeks. Sunday was 34 weeks. Monday was 34 weeks and one day. Everything, we thought, would be fine if we made it to 34 weeks. Somehow, Brianna and I missed the part of the discussions about 34 weeks being a premature birth. We were not expecting, and not ready for, the news that the baby would still need to go upstairs.
Brianna started her epidural and was feeling no pain. She was started on pitocin to make her contractions more regular. A different type of probe was used to determine the intensity of her contractions.
Around 12 or 12:30 Dr. Brinkman return to inform Brianna that she had dilated to a 10 or +1 and it was time to wake up and push. Brianna pushed hard for the next hour until finally giving birth at 13:11. Dr. Brinkman clamped off the umbilical cord and handed me scissors to cut through it. It felt much different than I expected.
The crew from the NICU upstairs cleaned the baby and gave her to mom for a short stay on her chest. Somehow I managed to find my camera and start taking pictures.
I went upstairs with the NICU crew and Katherine. We decided on the name Katherine a few seconds after the birth.
I came back downstairs to our empty room. Brianna was calling everyone she know to tell them the news. Once again we were looking at going home while our baby stayed in the hospital.
Easter 2006
Hailey enjoyed hunting Easter eggs at Rachael’s house and at Nanny and Papa’s house. She would not let go of me and chase down the eggs at the neighborhood Easter Egg Hunt with all the kids and games.
Not Fruit Loops
D: Get the Apple Jacks, they are like Fruit Loops.
H: These are Fruit Loops!
/taking them out of the pantry/
H: Oh, they are not, Mom you were just kidding.
/now that they are in the bowl/
H: Mommy, where are the jacks?































